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Parenting a child with complex social, emotional or behavioural needs can be really challenging. This can be difficult enough to manage in the home environment. Leaving the home can be fraught with anxiety over what might happen if your child has an 'episode'. Known triggers that you try to avoid in the home are less easy to control when in public spaces and at school. When your child 'kicks off' in a public place, apart from dealing with your child's behaviour, you have to deal with your own feelings of embarrassment and being judged as a 'poor parent who can't control their kid.' Sometimes it can be necessary to explain that your child has a condition that makes the current situation difficult for them. This might be to somebody official or it could just be that irritating member of the public 'tutting' behind you or worse making unhelpful comments like 'I wouldn't have that from my kid!'

The following cards can help as they can be quickly used to explain your child's condition. They can add a little 'officialness' to your plea for them to understand your child's needs. People tend to be more accepting and positively responsive when they can see it written down! There are separate cards that can be carried by the child and parent. They can simply thank the person for understanding or you can choose to write down some advice about how to manage your child's needs. They can be particularly useful for handing to staff and other people when visiting somewhere new or unfamiliar so as to hopefully avoid triggers.


I have ADHD

I have ADHD

Use this resource to support a child with ADHD. Use the example or write your own list of helpful strategies.


My child has ADHD

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This resource can be used to quietly inform others that your child's current behaviour is a result of a specific condition. Particularly useful for managing those embarrassing incidents where people making ignorant judgements. A simple version asking for understanding and alternative listing some of the needs. An Use the example or write your own list of helpful strategies.


I have Autism (ASD)

I have autism

Use this resource to support a child with Autism. Use the example or write your own list of helpful strategies.


My child has Autism

My child has autism

This resource can be used to quietly inform others that your child's currentl behaviour is a result of a specific condition. Particularly useful for managing those embarrassing incidents where people making ignorant judgements. A simple version asking for understanding and alternative listing some of the needs. Use the example or write your own list of helpful strategies.



I have Pathological Demand Avoidance Syndrome (PDA)

I have PDA

Use this resource to support a child with PDA. Use the example or write your own list of helpful strategies.


My child has PDA

My child has PDA

This resource can be used to quietly inform others that your child's currentl behaviour is a result of a specific condition. Particularly useful for managing those embarrassing incidents where people making ignorant judgements. A simple version asking for understanding and alternative listing some of the needs. Use the example or write your own list of helpful strategies.


I have Social Anxiety

I have social anxiety

Use this resource to support a child with Social Anxiety. Use the example or write your own list of helpful strategies.